Pet Care Corner: Better communication with your Pet – Part 1
By L. Leigh Meriweather
Wouldn’t it be nice to more effectively communicate with your pet?
Unless you are a professional animal communicator, you probably wish you could understand and communicate better with your pet. Most of us feel somewhat limited in our communication with them and wish we could be better at it.
I am not a professional animal communicator. I have studied animal communication greatly and am an animal intuitive. I use this intuitive ability in my practice when doing animal Reiki, distance healings, Grief healings from pet loss and Pet Honoring Ceremonies.
These intuitive abilities allow me to get information about the pet that is useful for the session. These same techniques can help you communicate better and have a closer relationship with your pet, as well.
I will first overview how animals communicate. This will help you understand where they are coming from and what they are looking for. Then, I will give some ideas on what you can do on your end.
While animals do use sound like we do, they also take it a bit deeper. They feel completely the message they are sending. There is no discrepancy with what they “say,” think and what they feel.
They look for the same in you. They often get confused when your mind is picturing/thinking one thing and your emotions/voice are emitting something different. They are in tune with the images you carry in your mind. How you picture things matters. Where your heart is matters.
So, first, it is important to slow down and be clear with the message you are sending. Humans tend to be very rushed and hurried with communication. We have a tendency to put greater emphasis on the actual words than anything else when, truly, it is everything else (intonation, tone, gestures, feeling, etc.) that really matters.
So, rule number 1: Match up the words/meaning of the message with the image in your mind.
For instance, If you are trying to tell your cat not to pee in the bed … repeated images of the cat peeing in the bed will send the wrong message. The cat may get the message that you are saying it is ok to pee in the bed. So, when trying to communicate an alternate behavior, picture the desired behavior. Rather than seeing the cat peeing in the bed, see the cat peeing in the litter box or outside.
Rule number 2: Match the feeling with the message.
We humans, are often so rushed with thoughts that we can think things like “I love you” and don’t necessarily have the same feeling at the same time. Your pet picks up on the feel of what you say rather than the actual words. You can say “peanut butter” in a stern, mean tone and you can watch your pet slink away as if they had done something wrong. Then, you can say the same words in a loving, sweet way and they just melt.
It is the feeling behind the words that they pick up on. So, practice pairing the words with the feeling, and remember to slow everything down.
I like to think of the last part as saying the words with your heart. It is easiest to practice, at first, with the phrase “I Love you.” We all know these words and we all know how these words feel in our heart. We know the feeling this phrase evokes within us. So, I recommend practicing saying this phrase “I love you” while truly feeling in your heart how this feels. Then, you can easily feel how it is to say “I love you” with your inner voice, from your heart. Pretty cool, huh?
This is what our pets do. They say words with their heart. This is why you can look at them and ‘feel’ when they are saying “I love you.” They are communicating with us at a nonverbal level. We are doing this with them, as well. So, it is just a matter of recognizing this and practicing and working more in the nonverbal realm.
Once you do this a bunch of times, you can practice this with other words and phrases. This is how to more effectively be clear with your message to your pet. You can even do this with expressing things like you’ll be back tomorrow. Pair this with a feeling and an image. See the image of the sun setting, rising and you entering the house door, delighted to see your pet.
Doing exercises like these will truly increase the closeness and communication you have with your pet.
Better communication with your Pet – Part 2 … coming next month.