The Last Word


By Sandi Tomlin-Sutker


OK, so I told you last month that I was no longer going to write a separate Editorial here but instead change this page to one that would honor the Unsung Heroines in our midst.
I had great plans for that; but alas, they didn’t come together in time.  And, I find that I have some thoughts about this month’s theme that I’d love to share.  So, please email me with some nominations for Unsung Heroines… women who do much for their communities and just don’t get the recognition they deserve!


Actually, the idea of women who do much but are not rewarded with accolades has me thinking about the idea of Stepping Up… to your life and your challenges and fears.  Many times the actions or responses to those challenges is internal.  Maybe no one else really knows our deepest fears and so wouldn’t recognize when we have Stepped Up to meet them with courage and strength and willingness to change.


Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”
Some people face their fears with external actions: they jump out of airplanes or off a cliff with a fragile bungee cord attached to their ankle.


Some choose to walk through war-torn cities, risking their lives to keep the rest of us informed.
Some take the risk of starting a new business even in a weak economy because they know their idea is a good one and they are willing to put their security and reputation on the line; maybe even risk the possible humiliation of failure in order to create their dream.


Some face internal fears: of change, of loss, of the unknown future.


But everyone who Steps Up to the challenges of life even in the face of their fear of consequences is showing all of us the path; they are even wearing down the rough spots so we won’t be as likely to trip on our way.


Dr. David R. Hawkins, in his book Healing and Recovery says that all fear is ultimately, at the bottom, the fear of annihilation of the ego; of death.  He recommends with any fear we experience to follow it fully until we come to the root.  And then let it go, stop resisting it…


The root of that fear is, after all, built on a belief that this personal, physical self is all we are.  We must get to a place of realization, of knowing that we are so much more; and that the support of the whole Universe is available to us when we are ready to gather our courage and Step Up.

Sandi Tomlin-Sutker
Written by Sandi Tomlin-Sutker