the real coming
of age:
celebrating the wise woman years
by julie savage parker
Okay class, take out your books Jubilee Time: Celebrating
Women, Spirit, and the Advent of Age by Maria Harrisand
turn to page one.
We're
talking about coming of age in this issuethe real coming
of ageand it's gonna be good. Hang on to your (red) hats!
From Amazon's publisher's blurb on the book:
In
keeping with the bestselling When I Am an Old Woman I Shall
Wear Purple, and Gail Sheehys New Passages, Jubilee
Time celebrates the freedom, opportunities, and power of older
women, who are too often maligned in our youth-obsessed culture.
Based on the Jubilee passage in LeviticusYou shall
hallow the fiftieth year. It shall be a Jubilee for youthis
practical and philosophical book helps women assess what values
and beliefs they want to carry forward into the second half
of life.
warning!
You have, of course, read When I Am an Old Woman I Shall Wear
Purple? It is a poem in a book of the same name. The poem is
actually called Warning; its author is Jenny Joseph who was
born in Birmingham, England, in 1932. Warning is a celebration
of being one's authentic self with the advent of age, a theme
running through not only many of the pieces in this issue, but
through WNC WOMAN as a whole. It begins:
WARNING
When I am an old woman I shall wear purpleWith a red hat which
doesnt go and doesnt suit me. . .
If you haven't read it, go to whenIamanoldwoman.com.
(By
the way, has anyone read The Seven Sacred Rites of MenopauseThe
Spiritual Journey to the Wise-Woman Years by Kristi Meisenbach
Boylan? Is it good?)
Hunh.
I have in my notes "souls journey in search of spiritual
balance". Did I make that up or did I read it somewhere?
Phooey. Ah, Menopause Brain! But I digress..... (I digress a
lot these days!)
the
"c" word
When discussing this issue with the circle of women who help
give this publication its juice, the word "crone"
was mentioned. Half the group blanched, and half the group immediately
hung garlic around their necks and cried "No! No! Not the
"c" word!"
But
the third half of the group exclaimed "Yes! Let's claim
it! Let's celebrate it!" For those not in the know, many
women are now celebrating this rite of passage and having croning
ceremonies to claim this fabulous new stage of life. We ran
out of space in this issue but we'll talk about croning ceremonies
in a future issue. (Com'on, Alice!) To tide you over, see cronechronicles.com,
a journal of conscious aging, birthingthecrone.com,
menopause and aging through an artist's eyes, and yoni.com.
When
we first thought of this issue, we thought of the magical, mystical
age of 50an age many of us experienced as marking the
beginning of our very best years. Then we got an article about
being 60, then one about being 70, and finally several women
over 80 cropped up. And creeping in after the deadline was one
from a woman celebrating 40 by climbing Macchu Picchu. So, we
are not quite as attached to focusing solely on 50 as we once
were.
A separate but related theme (which will be an ongoing feature
in WNC WOMAN) is called Beautiful Dreamers about women (in this
issue, all over 50) who dreamed a beautiful dream (some quite
literally) that they've spun into 3D. Instead of just whining
"Somebody oughta do something!"...they did it! Linda
McLean, Debra Roberts, Stephanie Citron, Margaret McKeel, Katherine
Graeter, Pat Magnus, Clare Hanrahanwe salute you! (And
if we weren't so modestahemSandi and I would salute
ourselves for creating WNC WOMAN!) Throw in the groundbreaking
women of the last century responsible for prison reform for
women [See Clare Hanrahan's article on Alderson Federal Prison
where she used to hang her (red) hat for her acts of civil disobedience]
and we have some very powerful women.
Now
before you write and tell us you are 20 or 30 or 40 and you
are doing great things, I say yes, I know, and you are fabulous.
But there is something about being 50, girlfriend, that is so
rich and so delicious that until you reach it, until you round
the corner from 49 to 50, you have no idea what treats are in
store for you.
So, to wrap up, (unless you prefer I digress a bit more?) this
issue is a doozy. All of you who are older today than you were
yesterday, join me in celebration. Think about it:
Freedom.
Opportunities.
Power.
Yes!